Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling
Why seek couples therapy?
Extremely little is taught directly to us about how to have lasting, committed and connected relationships. The 51 % national divorce rate speaks volumes about our deep need to understand the intricacies of romantic partnerships. It can be confusing for couples to experience bliss in the beginning of their relationship and then find themselves in painful conflict. There may be an equally painful “disconnected feeling” and the despair of not knowing how to reconnect. Under such circumstances, couples typically blame one another for this disconnection which only makes it worse. They develop patterns of protecting themselves emotionally which cause them to grow further apart. They don’t “get” each other, nor understand the source of the conflicts. They don’t understand why even minor disagreements are packed with so much emotion! They try short term solutions which rarely make the problems disappear, and then recycle the same old arguments. This can leave them feeling lost and hopeless. What many couples believe when their relationships end is that they “picked wrong person.” However, they commonly discover that they experience the same frustrations and issues with the next partner!
How can couples therapy help?
A good couple’s therapist understands that arguments are actually an attempt to bring the couple back together. The couple hopes that once the argument is resolved, they will reconnect. However, arguments typically push them farther apart. A skilled therapist understands where these arguments and “disconnects” actually come from. The therapist engages the couple in a safe environment by teaching a non-defensive method of communication which reveals the true source of the conflict. It is frequently revealed that these issues actually pre-date their relationship. The therapist guides the couple to the root causes and teaches healing techniques which resolve core issues. Once the couple has reconnected, problem-solving becomes easy. Next, the therapist coaches the couple on how to enhance their relationship, intentionally and deliberately, instead of waiting for something positive to occur. The couple is provided with a wealth of tools for maintaining and growing the relationship they desire.
Why choose Steve Moore? I have a passion for understanding relationships in both my professional and personal lives. I have worked with couples over my 30-year career. I am so impressed with what Imago Relationship Therapy has done for my relationship with my wife, Pamela, that I was compelled to take the extensive training and process to be able to pass these gifts on to my couples. As a Certified Image Relationship Therapist, I am skilled at making the couples therapy room a safe environment, devoid of blaming and shaming. I instill a sense of curiosity in partners to learn about themselves and each other. I get a great deal of joy out of helping couples reconnect.
What is Imago Relationship Therapy?
" Connection is the energy that is created between people when they feel seen, heard and valued - when they can give and receive without judgement."
- Brene Brown, Ph.d, LMSW
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